In this post, we're talking People.
As you develop, new experiences present themselves. Each new experience presents the opportunity for new relationships. In college you’ll have a set of friends, your high school friends know nothing about. Even as you take different classes you’ll acquire a new set of associates/friends. Don’t stifle that but be responsible. College is all about building a skill set and a network. Not only do you want to leave ready to tackle the job of your choosing but, you also want to have established a network of relationships to take with you. So open up, don’t be a recluse and clam up. Crack a joke, smile and be approachable. Participate in study groups and other class activities. There is much to gain from these exchanges as well
But don’t let it consume you. It’s so easy for the social side of college life to over shadow your priority, your academics. So be mindful of the time you spend chit chatting in class over the time you spend listening. Engage with class discussion yes, but shut your trap long enough to really get a grasp of the content of the class session. Work with your classmates, but make sure your group work is productive even if that means spending a little more independent time. Now ya’ll know I’m a clown and can pride myself on making any situation an enjoyable one. It’s gift and a curse. Studying with Keia in the library, usually comes with a lil gossip, some snacks, music, a lil YouTube, etc. (Don’t judge me). I’m not saying its right but it happens and I acknowledge it. I understand that it’s a part of my nature right now and although I’m trying to change it, I work with myself and not against myself. I allocate times in my studying for these breaks/ distractions and I try to stick with the schedule of tasks that I have to accomplish at the library that day. I get it done. This means I may have to stay at the library a little longer than my study group and I do that. Be honest with yourself.
I just don’t want you guys to get yourself bound to cylos and cliques in college. The mean girls, the athletes, the geeks, thesbians, the trollups, etc. Remember the GlamNERDS of the cool kids table are cool enough to affiliate and be welcomed and respected by all of these groups. We work the cafeteria, hunny. Everybody knows us for the right reasons, we speak our hellos and wave and smile to all as we fix our plates. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying drop your besties, roll dolo, and be the P. Diddy duplicate on your campus. (yuck!) You can have you set because I know I did. I just hate to see students connected at the hip. Gangs and lil cliques shading, hating and generating beef throughout the campus. Be open to getting out there talking to and meeting new people. It’s really what college is all about.
Till Next Time,